Update on Anita

Following on from my last article about Anita.

Anita was diagnosed with VIN Cancer. The gynaecologist oncologist had moved swiftly. Basically Anita had an MRI on Good Friday. We were then told that an emergency operations was been organised. That operation happened on Wednesday 22nd of April.,we decided not to publish anything during these last number of difficult days for Anita

An expect hospital stay of 8 days following the operation has been reduced to 4 days. The gynaecologist oncologist visited Anita Sunday morning and felt she was recovering much better and faster than expected, he felt the initial operation was very successful and expects the deeper biopsy and the Lymph node that he removed for testing to have the results within 2 weeks. He felt that Anita coud be discharged on Sunday but asked her to wait till Monday morning as a precaution.

So from initial diagnosis on the 2nd of April to completion of surgery took less than 20 days. That includes biopsy results, MRI and scheduling an operation like this during the pandemic COVID 19. A great achievement by the medical team. In relation to the COVID 19 test Anita is negative- home and social distancing works, don’t doubt this please we have seen this work following my Stem Cell Transplant in 2017 and here we are again . BUT Anita is home now and comfortable. 

Mentally & physically this has been a difficult month for us. We’re strong willed people but after 6 years of my war with cancer and 3 terminl diagnoses, the sudden impact and realisation of the Coronavirus- knowing that I was on the type of danger list that I never expected to be on with a failed COVID 19 test and medically told to isolate at the same time that Anita is diagnosed & operated on for VIN Cancer is pushing our mental and physical levels to their maximum.

Topped with all this is the job I have since late 2018. We’re stretched as about 25% of our business had been medical and 5% hygiene products- with COVID these figures have changed. Between medical and hygiene were now at 75% pushing a lot of urgency into PPE as HSE distibution agents. Of course the fact that I have been medically isolated means I can’t leave the house. The only exception was to leave and collect Anita and that was granted because we live 40 minutes from hospital. I am still cocooned till the 3rd May as it puts me in the house all of the coming week but this doesn’t really help as much as people think. I actually want to be in the warehouse with my team, I’m known to jump in and do whatever it takes (hence the manual handling and forklift license renewal) the team are well used to seeing me offloading trailers, stacking pallets and doing whatever it takes, but the team is strong and I can do so much from home, I want to be able to go to the shops but to protect Anita, my team and others I can’t move. I do expect to have a second COVID test as I still have symptoms. Anita will be cocooned for the next 2 to 4 weeks and  permitted out for medical appointments only but not allowed to drive till June, we are still not sure if her team intend to liase with my medical team as I am immune compromised.

As a family unit to have both of us diagnosed with cancer over 6 years and Anita been diagnosed this April during a Pandemic placing both of our immune systems as compromised is next to unimaginable. We are strong and these challenges make us even stronger, our ability to turn a weakness into a strength comes from our “We can beat this” attitude. We will now await the results from Anitas lymph node biopsy ( just a quick note on this. The VIN operation was one particularly operation which was performed by the gynaecologist oncologist he then done a second operation to remove the nearest lymph note which was to the left groin – this is both a precaution & essential as the results will show any further spread. This is a deep lymph node and requires much more invasive surgery) 

Strong physical and mental approaches with a first class dedicated medical team produces exceptional results.

Anita you have proven yourself to be a warrior at an exceptional level.

Together we are stronger

Can’t end this without posting this photo again. How very true is this and as the year progresses let’s hope we have reached the peak.

We would also like to thank everyone for their messages of support and encouragement during the past week.

I remember on my first day of ICE Chemotherapy The devil whispered in my ear “you are not strong enough to withstand the storm” that evening I shouted at the devil “I am the fucking Storm” and now I can proudly say that Anita is a force not to be underestimated. You really have picked the wrong couple to mess with…

Just a noted addition from Anita

As Ian has said above thanks everyone for the support

But a particular Thank You to the medical teams in CUMH and Bon Secours Cork. The care staff, the wonderful cleaners & caters ( who kept the tea flowing), the nurses who Ian has always called Gods Angels on Earth, the doctors, my amazing gynaecologist oncologist and the HSE.”

Thank You


  1. God bless you both. Keep fighting Anita. You’ve got this. Sending all my love and prayers.xxx🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️


  2. Sending lots of love, light and Angel’s to you both, and a very special virtual hug to Anita. Your love and strength will beat this. ❤❤❤❤


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